Practicing non-attachment

I’ve been thinking about writing a post about “attachment” as it resonates with everyone. Ultimately attachments cause pain so why do we constantly attach to ideas, relationships, objects and expectations? When things don’t go as planned we are filled with anxiety, frustration and stress. Stressing about how things will turn out means you’re attached to the idea of how you want things to be. Just let it go! Yes, this is easier said than done. However, it all starts with having a positive state of mind.

Excuse my french but, personally I’ve struggled to let shit go. However, over the years it has become a lot easier to accept things as they are rather than attaching to expectations. In my early twenties I started to read  tons of self help books and one of my favorites is  “Zen and the art of happiness” by Chris Prentiss. In this book I learned the keys to praticing non attachment. 

3 Ways to practice “non- attachement”


1. Meditation – take time to disconnect and just breathe. Find a time that works best for you. Perhaps in the morning when you wake up or at the end of your day. Close your eyes and take a step back. After your session you may find yourself having more energy and a clear state of mind.

2. Accept things as they are – the universe doesn’t make mistakes. Don’t get frustrated if things aren’t going as planned. For example, if it takes longer for you to graduate or purchase a home. Detach from the idea of how things are supposed to happen. Live life with out expectations and have faith that there is something good in store. 

3. Let things go – forget about the past. Live in the present moment. You have no control of people or the future. Things will manifest on their own. Forgive others even if you never received an apology. Holding on to grudges is a form of attachment. Do yourself a favor and move on!

Avoid people who.. 


Over time I’ve learned to protect my space. Its important for me to keep genuine people in my life. I’ve had my share of false, negative and toxic relationships. Therefore, I refuse to keep those types of people in my life. GOOD Vibes only! Below is a list of people you should always avoid. 
1. Mess with your head – Don’t ever let someone play with your emotions. Pay attention to ACTIONS way more than words. Once someone shows you who they are believe them!
2. Intentionally and repeatedly do things they know upset you – Sometimes the company you keep brings you down. Friendships should consist of trust, support and laughter. Stay away from those people that try to dim your light.
3. Expect you to prioritize them but don’t prioritize you – You are NOT an option. Make time for those that care. Its a two way street!

4. Can’t and won’t apologize sincerely – If someone apologizes after hurting you – forgive them. But don’t accept someone who makes up excuses for their actions. If they love you they will take responsibility for their mistakes.